‘Do It Yourself’ Relationship / Marriage Surveys and Quizzes

Northern Frontiers Counselling offers a range of Do-It-Yourself Relationship Surveys (often referred to as relationship quizzes) that enable you to review your relationship and identify areas that may need improvement.  The surveys offer guidance on how to discuss areas of concern with your partner – as well as referrals to websites that may further enhance your communication skills and understanding of relationship issues.

Put simply, as human beings we are all emotional creatures. We experience a range of emotions no other animal in the Animal Kingdom does. Unlike other animals that are driven primarily by instinct, we are driven to a significant extent by emotions.

Emotions are intertwined with our values and beliefs and, as such, they have the power to influence how we think, feel and act – all of which plays a role in what we need to feel content in our intimate relationship.

Our survey creator, Melinda Bailey, boasts 30+ years’ counselling experience and has developed 10 stand-alone quizzes designed to help you drill down into areas of your relationship that may need attention.  The quizzes are ideal for those of you who have tried unsuccessfully to engage your other half in the more traditional face-to-face relationship or marriage counselling scenario.  Or perhaps you would simply prefer to review things from the comfort of your own home.  Whatever your motivation, a vital part of any change process is taking the first step.

Do It Yourself Relationship / Marriage Surveys - Identify areas of your relationship that may need some maintenance.

Our quizzes are designed around 10 of the most important emotional needs, and can be completed from the privacy of your home.  All 10 specially designed quizzes can be purchased individually according to your specific needs, or as a complete relationship maintenance survey.

What quizzes and surveys are available?

Northern Frontiers Counselling quizzes are focused on ten (10) of the most common human emotional needs, specifically:

1.  Need for Respect

2.  Need for Honest Communication

3.  Need for Validation

4.  Need for Affection

5. Need for Sexual Fulfilment

6. Need for Separateness

7. Need for Togetherness

8. Need for Domestic Support

9. Need for Financial Support

10. Need for Parenting Teamwork


Pricing and how to purchase

Email/electronic delivery:

  • Purchase 1 – 3 individual emotional needs surveys and pay $11.00 each.  These will be delivered via email within 24 hours of payment being received.  Surveys can be printed at home or reviewed online.
  • Purchase 4 – 9 individual emotional needs surveys and pay $9.90 each.  These will be delivered via email within 24 hours of payment being received.  Surveys can be printed at home or reviewed online.
  • Purchase all 10 surveys and pay a total of $88.00.  These will be delivered via email within 24 hours of payment being received.  Surveys can be printed at home or utilised online.

To order simply email reception@northernfrontiers.com.au, use the LiveChat feature at the bottom right of this webpage, call 1300 90 81 70, or text message 0419 531 269.  Payment can be made via online banking and credit card only (1.5% – 2.5% surcharge applies to all major credit cards).

Once I’ve emailed my order, how long does it take for the quizzes to arrive?

If you order, and include proof of payment, for your quizzes between 8.00am and 6.00pm Monday to Friday, your quizzes will arrive by email within 2 hours.

If you order your quizzes on the weekend, or a Public Holiday, please allow 2-4 hours for these to arrive.

If you have any questions or issues with your purchase, please text message ASAP to 0419 531 269.

What if we need extra assistance after completing the quizzes?

In each of the quizzes Melinda has outlined some additional resources you may wish to explore, including online research topics, links to relevant websites etc.  There is always the ability to engage an experienced Relationship or Marriage Counsellor.  If you live in the Cairns region you can schedule a face-to-face session with Melinda, and please click here for further information.  If you live outside the Cairns region you can organise a phone or videochat (Zoom, MS Teams, FaceTime etc) sessions, and please click here for further information on this.  Alternatively, you can search online for a suitably qualified Counsellor in your city/region.

Still have questions?  See below, or call 1300 90 81 70 or text message 0419 531 269 now for your free 15 minute consultation.

What is Family Dispute Resolution?
It’s really just a specialised form of family mediation. Family law in Australia has undergone a number of changes in recent decades, with the introduction of compulsory mediation for separated families being one of the most notable. Put simply, separated families who cannot reach agreement around a child matter are now legally required to make a genuine effort to resolve their dispute through family law mediation before asking a court to decide things for them (exceptions apply). Of relevance to this requirement is the fact that the overriding principles of family law legislation are now grounded in the rights of the child and the responsibilities of parents and care providers. Mediation offers a neutral space in which parents and care-providers can discuss parenting and property issues with a view to developing a Parenting Plan or Property Agreement that best meets the changing needs of their family. Family law mediators (also known as Family Dispute Resolution Practitioners) are legally obligated to remain impartial, provide information about family separation and create an environment in which parents and care-providers can speak openly and honestly about their family situation. All that is said in mediation remains confidential and cannot be used as evidence in any court in Australia (exceptions apply). Mediation basically offers a way for families to remain in control of their family’s future.
Payment information for Family Law Mediation sessions

Unless advised prior it is assumed that both parties pay their own costs of the mediation process at Northern Frontiers Pty Ltd.  Pre-payment for any booked sessions is required at least two days prior to a session.  If more than 2 (two) business days notice is not given for cancellation, or there is a “No Show”, a 100% charge applies with no credits provided.  If you have booked a session as part of the Family Law Mediation process, funds are not refunded for any time that is not used during a joint mediation session, for whatever reason.  It is at the discretion of the mediator as to whether a credit is issued.  Mediation pricing includes the preparation of a Record of Parenting Agreement when required.

Is the mediation process complicated?

Northern Frontiers Mediation offers a staged mediation process as follows:

Step 1: Intake session between Party A and the mediator. Permission sought to contact the other party and assess their willingness to mediate. If ‘Yes’ we proceed as follows…

Step 2: Intake session between Party B and the mediator.

Step 3:  Northern Frontiers Reception provides a number of available mediation session times over the next two weeks and confirms a suitable time with both parties.

Step 4: 1st mediation session facilitated by an accredited Family Dispute Resolution Practitioner (aka Mediator).

Additional mediation sessions may be required depending on the number of agenda items and progress made in the 1st mediation session.

The Mediator records any agreement made in the form of a Parenting Plan or Property Agreement. Both parties receive a copy of their agreement along with referral to legal advice and/or other services where assessed as appropriate.

IMPORTANT NOTE: s60I certificates

In some circumstances the Mediator may assess your matter as ‘not appropriate for mediation’ and issue a s60I certificate.  This may occur at any stage of the mediation process. Because mediators are bound by strict confidentiality you are encouraged to direct any questions you may have about a S60I certificate to a family law lawyer.

Recommended Reading:

Julie Hodge, one of Cairns’ leading family law lawyers, recently published a book called ‘Moving On – What you need to know about Separation and Divorce’ in the hope it may assist people affected by family separation as they move through the family law system. For more information, or to purchase a copy, please click here.

Do I also need a lawyer?

Northern Frontiers Mediation suggests you seek legal advice before, during and after mediation. This is to ensure your parenting or property agreement is founded in current family law principles i.e. ‘in the best interest of the child’ and, in terms of property, ‘fair and equitable’.  If you require referral details for a suitably qualified family law lawyer please contact Reception or ask the mediator.

How soon can I get started?

As soon as you like! The longest you might wait for an Intake & Assessment session is normally 2 – 4 business days. This is your first formal step in taking control of your family situation so that all involved can move on.  Please note though, we are not able to contact and invite the other party to the Mediation process until one party has completed their Intake session.

Appointment times:

For your convenience Northern Frontiers Mediation Cairns offers phone and videochat appointments from 7.30am weekdays.  Out of hours appointments are available on a case-by-case basis, including weekends.  To enquire or book simply call 1300 90 81 70, text message 0419 531 269, email reception@northernfrontiers.com.au or use the online chat feature at the bottom right of this webpage.

Ready for a new direction?

Contact our Reception and confidentially discuss your unique situation today.  Simply call 1300 90 81 70, send a detailed text message to our client mobile on 0419 531 269, email reception@northernfrontiers.com.au or use the online chat feature at the bottom right of this webpage to speak with someone now.  Don't worry, there is no obligation to make a booking, and we are happy to answer any questions you have if you are just researching different providers.

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75 Digger St

Cairns North QLD 4870

We operate Australia-wide.

We do not accept walk-ins, or individuals without prior bookings. Please contact prior to attending office.


+1300 90 81 70

Mobile: 0419 531 269 (text messaging available)

LiveChat: If you have any questions about our services and don't have time to ring or email, feel free to use the LiveChat function (bottom right of this page).


Opening Hours

Mon-Fri: 7.30 am – 5:00 pm, by appointment only.  Limited face-to-face sessions available during the week.  Phone and videochat (MS Teams, Skype, Zoom etc) available each weekday. Last-minute sessions are sometimes available for urgent matters.

Please note:  To ensure client confidentiality all bookings are strictly by appointment only therefore we do not accept walk-ins or unannounced requests for service, including for new enquiries.