Counselling Services

Effective Discipline


Northern Frontiers offers a four-session educational counselling programme for parents and care-providers. Our
Senior Counsellor and Parenting Consultant, Melinda Bailey, believes the foundation of effective parenting is
Trust and Respect. Melinda takes a practical, protective approach to discipline - one which involves asking
questions about techniques used in the home and actively counselling parents and care-providers about the
purpose of discipline, whilst discouraging all forms of physical punishment and emotional abuse.

Programme Outline


Intake and Assessment
• Family details including age and developmental stage of each child.
• What is the parent’s understanding of and attitude towards discipline?
• Parenting style
• What types of discipline are used by the parent?
• Difficulties arising from disciplinary action used by the parent?
• Is the parent experiencing any life stressors and if so, how are they managed?


Defining Discipline: A process whereby parents/care-providers impart knowledge and provide behavioural guidance by setting limits and imposing consequences – thereby instilling the foundation for self-control by the child. Often confused with punishment and control by the parent/care-provider’.

Characteristics of Effective Discipline

  • Carried out by an adult who has a close bond with the child

  • Age and developmentally-appropriate

  • Timely – carried out at the time of the act requiring change

  • Understood and considered fair by the child

  • Enhancing - conducive to self-discipline by the child


Reasonable Rules and Realistic Consequences
• Knowledge of age-appropriate behaviours and developmental needs
• Make age-appropriate statements of achievable behaviours
• Frequent positive reinforcement of desired behaviours
• Make allowances for individuality and temperament
• Mean what you say - enforce consequences
• Be consistent and avoid arguing with the child
• Importance of being a good role model
• Prioritise rules – Safety first (the child’s/parent’s/other people and animals/property)


Types of Discipline
• Reasoning – anticipate and prevent undesirable behaviour
• Physical punishment – associated with negative child outcomes – parents to take time out
before returning to discipline the child using non-violent means
• Tailored Discipline – Infants and Toddlers – Toddlers to School Age – Adolescents
• Review

* Sessions last for 60 minutes and cost $110 per session. 10% discount applies when paying for all 4 sessions at once prior to programme commencement.